Ladies, do you really know what you want in a man?

Oftentimes,when you ask a lady what she wants in a man,her response is always "i want an honest,faithful man…a man who will love me for me" (I'm not exempted lol) I think we are so shallow minded when it comes to making the right choice in a relationship or going into the right relationship. We are so caught up in our fairytales land and we forget that there are other factors we need to put into consideration because love is just not enough to make a relationship work.

Factors like:

Does he know your birthday?

Does he understand your moods?

Does he know your weaknesses and strengths?

What are his own dreams?

What is your role in those dreams?

What kind of person is he?

Does he smoke? Why does he smoke?

Does he drink? What makes him drink?

What is his lifestyle?

How does he fund it? What does he do for a living?

What does he want to do for a living? What does he want to do for a better tomorrow?

A MUST READ: Ladies, marriage is not a DO or DIE affair.

This lady was beaten blue/black by her husband and she is in coma....no one knows if she will make it.

This whole violence against women is deafening and a law should be put in place to castrate any man who raises his hand against a woman. I want to use this avenue to diss the ladies who still think marriage is for better or for worse. 

Few days ago, a friend of mine asked me for advice, her husband is what you will call a 'dog', he goes after anything and everything, he keep telling his girlfriends that he is not married, then promise them marriage and even goes ahead to impregnate them; Whereas he has a wife and child at home. Now, my friend is scared because her husband might end up contacting her with STDs, even at that, she still thinks marriage is for better and for worse. 

I didn't ask her to leave her marriage, i only asked her to choose between her life and her marriage. If her life is important to her, she will leave the marriage and take care of her child but if the marriage is more important to her, she will get infected with STDs and another woman will help her train her child. 

How can you sacrifice your life for someone who doesn't even know the value? 

Guys, love her the way she needs to be loved and not the way you want to love her.

Sometimes, guys tend to be selfish with their love by doing whatever they want, even when it hurts their women. 

They knowingly hurt their women and later come back to say 'baby, i'm sorry, i'm trying my best to love you'. Uhmm that's really sad and funny. 

How can you try your best to love someone if you keep lying and cheating on them? 

How can you say you love someone but your attitudes show something else? 

If you don't feel comfortable when the person you love hurts you because of their selfish interest, then you would stop hurting your women and start loving them the way they need to be loved and not the way you want to love them.

Ladies, learn how to love your man.

Most time i think women unfairly or unknowingly put men through unnecessary stress either because they want things done their way or because they are too self centered and selfish to even notice that they are not the only one having a bad day and that their men need TLC too.

Do you know why your man comes home every day at the close of work? 
Uhmmm....maybe you need to know what goes on at work first..... :-)

 

Your man goes through all the imaginables like....

*Noise Chaos

*Stress
*Insults
*Laughter
*Jokes
*Ridicule
*Temptation
*Seduction
*Salary arrears
*Instructions
*Deadlines
*Food
*Boredom
*Excitement....and the list goes on & on

Every time u mistreat a woman, u give up d right to be treated like a man!